love knows no boundaries.

Muhamad Noor Che Musa sits to his newly married 104-year-old wife Wook Kundor.
Photo: AP

"Man, 33, marries woman, 104 year-old woman"-AP

This headline spread across newspapers worldwide, from the Straits Times in Singapore to Harian Metro in Malaysia. I am sure that a lot of people out there including myself were shock when they received the news. Some people even asked how is this possible? Well, some people may say that love knows no age boundaries and this is the perfect example for it. Different people have different reasons in engaging interpersonal relationship. The reasons can be categorized into two groups that are social needs and personal needs. The personal needs are sexual, physical, emotional and psychological needs, for companionship, security and money matters. The social needs are conformity for example people engage in interpersonal relationship to conform to society's norm.
According to Harian Metro, the couple said that it started out as mutual respect and friendship but it has turned to love. It is the 33 year-old man, Muhamad Noor Che Musa's first marriage. However, for the wife, 104 year-old Wook Kundur, it is her 21st marriage. For Wook Kundur, she got married again because she was lonely and needs a companion to help her and feels her time in her everyday life. As for the husband, he sympathises her as she is old and lonely. He denies that it is not for the money. Well, in my opinion this relationship surely does not depend on physical appearance. This is because she is a very old woman who does not have the kind of attractiveness that a young woman has, for example physical strength and body wise. The formation of this relationship is more of complementary differences and exchange. According to www.smh.com, he said that he hoped to help his bride master Roman script while she taught him Islamic religious knowledge. This shows that with the different types of knowledge that both partners have, they can share knowledge and information which may be useful for them. This type of mutual exchange may help to strengthen the relationship further. Wook Kundur even gave advice about how to sustain a marriage when asked. She said that as for her, she provides the needs for her husband such as physical needs for example food, emotional needs for example giving her husband support and sexual needs. However, three years later, headlines about the couple started to appear in newspapers again.

"107-year-old woman seeks 23rd hubby"-AFP

This came as a shock to most people as they seemed to be a happily married couple three years back. She even gave advice on how to sustain a marriage. According to AFP, the 107-year-old woman is ready to marry for the 23rd time because she fears that her current drug addict husband might leave her for a younger woman. The relational challenges that the couple may be facing are insecurity, change and possibly boredom. This is because Wook Kundur is feeling very insecure as she fears that when her husband has ended his drug rehabilitation treatment, he will leave her for a younger woman. Her husband's drug addiction and habit may potentially be one of the reasons as to why she wants to find another husband. As her husband is mainly away for treatment, she is feeling lonely. This was one of the reasons as to why she got married to him three years ago, that is to feel her emptiness and loneliness. However, this goal has not been met.
"My intention to remarry is to fill my forlornness and nothing more than that,"she said-AFP
In my opinion, her personal needs which are company, emotional support, advice and security has not been met. Three years ago, she married this man to fulfill her needs and wishes. When these needs and wishes are not met, the maintenance process of the relationship becomes difficult. Hence, these relational challenges could result in relational dissolution if not solved.
Well, we have yet know the end to the story about 107-year-old woman and her husband, 36-year-old Muhammad Noor Che Musa. The story continues.

Love all, trust a few-William Shakespeare